48% of couples who live together report arguing about home clutter-
Are you ONE of them?
I've got solutions and remedies:
🎯 For decluttering your home without arguing
🎯 Reconnecting your relationship through trust
🎯 Teaching you both how to communicate effectively
🎯 Which will teach you about your Nervous System so you can regulate it
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I wrote a book based on my 20 years of experience working directly with couples organizing their homes.
My book will TRANSFORM how you talk to one another about your clutter discrepancies and teach you how to self-regulate in the face of conflict. It's a self-help guide and workbook for individuals and couples who desperately want to:
❣️ Improve their homes by having less clutter in it and more whole-home organization
❣️ Eliminate clutter frustration and tension within their partnership or marriage
❣️ Make clutter arguments a thing of the past with more effective communication tools
❣️ Featuring interactive questions and prompts after each section, this book is not just a read but a journey of self-discovery. You'll gain deeper insights into your clutter habits and those of your partner.
Don’t let clutter come between you!
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P. Moore
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I really enjoyed this book because it offered practical, actionable solutions that acknowledged the REALITY of living with a partner. So many organizing books seem to forget that you might have a partner who is perfectly happy living like a borderline hoarder and will not get on board with your new edits and systems. Colette, on the other hand, gives guidance for REAL people in REAL couples- and she does it with humor and heart...
Anonymous
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..Should be required pre-cohabitation reading!
M. Waller
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... I highly recommend this action oriented self help book to anyone needing guidance and support for decluttering their life. It has certainly changed mine.
H. VanWormer
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Clutter has been a constant struggle for me and my partner. We have been stuck in a loop of my frustration at their clutter and their inability to understand its impact on me. We found the holy grail in this book—self-help at its finest…This is the best guide out there for not only tidying up/organizing but also navigating communication around it with your partner. I can't recommend this book enough.
Who am I and how can I help you?
I'm Colette and I'm wildly passionate about helping you and your partner have the most vibrant relationship through revolutionary communication, a clutter free and organized home, as well as juicy intimacy with one another. I've been learning how to have all those things inside my own life during the past 35 years on the planet. If you're interested in learning more, click the button below. 🤍
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Testimonies from clients:
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"I think the communication thing is key. You brought an energy which made alignment easy to achieve and maintain."
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"You allowed me to tell the stories of what I could envision and also so swiftly encouraged/ held accountability towards that end vision..."
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"Colette brings a level of inspiration and passion for life and all things, which is a total joy to be around."
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"...if you are lucky enough to spend time with Colette you will understand she has immense passion for her work and helping her clients. She has deep compassion to offer, and her ability to be direct, open, and non-judgmental creates a very safe and trusting space."
Living together is a big life transition...
Choosing to move in with your partner can bring a cozy sweetness, delightful new habits, and a sense of security that you may have never experienced before. However, it can also reveal the differences in how each of you prefers to live: your approaches to spending time and money, cleaning preferences, temperature settings, and the amount of belongings you both want to bring into the shared space.
These are just a FEW factors to consider about each other to make the transition smoother and address any false expectations you may have. We all know that unspoken expectations can lead to friction, which can lead to conflict, and that my friends can open a whole can of worms since most of us have no idea how to navigate conflict effectively.
To assist you in this next phase of your relationship, I've created a comprehensive Compatibility Questionnaire. This tool will help you learn more about each other as you design your shared living space.
One of the beautiful benefits of gaining a deeper understanding of each other is that it can open up lines of communication, which is crucial for navigating any differences that arise.
Please accept this free gift by clicking the button below.
Yes, send me the Compatibility Questionaire!Sharing a home with your things AND your partner's things can create:
FRUSTRATION
Many people experience subtle or even overt frustration with their partner, especially when it comes to household clutter. If this is you, I want to inform you that your frustration is entirely valid. Your brain is working hard to restore a sense of calm, attempting to bring order to the chaos around you in hopes of regulating your nervous system. However, while this may be YOUR natural instinct, it might not be your partner’s priority—or even on their radar. This can cause a lot of tension within your relationship.
Remedy
Set Clear and Manageable Boundaries
Rather than expecting your partner to match your standards, it would be better to establish clear agreements in particular zones of the house.
For example, designate specific shared areas as clutter-free spaces and agree on a maintenance routine that you both are responsible for. Small changes you agree to can prevent resentment and possible frustration.
ARGUMENTS
Whether you're openly arguing about clutter or silently avoiding the elephant in the room (or in every room), these two strategies for trying to get your needs met tend to intensify the highly charged emotions each of you might be feeling. Unfortunately, they don't get you closer to a resolved place with one another. Instead of engaging in unhelpful back-and-forths and possibly hurting one another with harsh language or criticisms,consider this:
Remedy
Learn and Practice Transparent, Caring Communication
Consider learning a new communication tool that I talk about in my book, it has worked miracles for my life and my nervous system around conflict.
Creating a safe space for expressing feelings and concerns without assigning blame can be a revolution in your relationship. This approach can turn heated arguments into constructive discussions.
DISCONNECTION
The emotional weight of an unorganized and cluttered home can leave both of you feeling disconnected, alone, confused, and disappointed, which can create a significant loss of intimacy. When a relationship is experiencing a decrease in intimate connection, the overall stress can become profound. Nothing good shall come of this, and I urge you both to get serious about repairing your connection.
Remedy
Agree to Create a Clutter-Free Sanctuary specifically for Intimacy
Designate your bedroom—as a clutter-free zone. Make it a priority to keep this space peaceful and inviting, free from stress-inducing chaos. Creating this calming environment naturally fosters emotional and physical intimacy, helping you reconnect and focus on each other rather than the distractions around you.
I'd love to have the opportunity to communicate with you. ❣️
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