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48% of couples who live together report arguing about home clutter

 

If this feels familiar, you’re in the right place.

 

I help couples who live together reduce clutter so their home stops triggering stress, tension, and low-grade conflict.

 
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I wrote this book after twenty years of working directly with couples inside their homes.

 

Not in theory.
In real kitchens, garages, bedrooms, and living rooms—where clutter quietly strains even good relationships.

 

This book shows you how to address clutter differences without turning them into fights, and how to stay regulated when tension shows up—so conversations don’t spiral and decisions don’t stall.

 

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

• Reduce daily friction by creating clearer, shared systems at home
• Interrupt the cycle of resentment that builds around unfinished clutter
• Communicate more effectively when stress is high and patience is low
• Understand your own clutter thresholds—and your partner’s—without blame

 

Each section includes reflective prompts and practical exercises, making this more than a read. It’s a guided process—one that helps you move from tension to teamwork.

 

Clutter doesn’t have to live between you.

 

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P. Moore

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I really enjoyed this book because it offered practical, actionable solutions that acknowledged the REALITY of living with a partner. So many organizing books seem to forget that you might have a partner who is perfectly happy living like a borderline hoarder and will not get on board with your new edits and systems. Colette, on the other hand, gives guidance for REAL people in REAL couples- and she does it with humor and heart...

H. VanWormer

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Clutter has been a constant struggle for me and my partner. We have been stuck in a loop of my frustration at their clutter and their inability to understand its impact on me. We found the holy grail in this book—self-help at its finest…This is the best guide out there for not only tidying up/organizing but also navigating communication around it with your partner. I can't recommend this book enough. 

Anonymous

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..Should be required pre-cohabitation reading!

M. Waller

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... I highly recommend this action oriented self help book to anyone needing guidance and support for decluttering their life. It has certainly changed mine.

Yup, I want it...I'm ready to stop arguing!

Who am I and how can I help you?

 

I’m Colette.

For more than two decades, I’ve worked as a professional organizer —helping families reduce clutter, communicate more clearly, and move through life transitions without turning everyday stress into ongoing conflict.

 

My work sits at the intersection of practical organizing, nervous-system awareness, and real-world partnership dynamics.

 

I help couples create homes that function well—and relationships that feel steadier, calmer, and more collaborative in the sometimes stressful experience of living together.

 

If you’d like to learn more about me, click below.

More about Colette

Testimonies from clients:

I. Hepworth

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"I think the communication thing is key. You brought an energy which made alignment easy to achieve and maintain."

H. Webb

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"You allowed me to tell the stories of what I could envision and also so swiftly encouraged/ held accountability towards that end vision..."

A. Davidson

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"Colette brings a level of inspiration and passion for life and all things, which is a total joy to be around."

K.Stone

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"...if you are lucky enough to spend time with Colette you will understand she has immense passion for her work and helping her clients. She has deep compassion to offer, and her ability to be direct, open, and non-judgmental creates a very safe and trusting space."

Living together is a big life transition.

 

Sharing a home can bring comfort, closeness, and a deeper sense of we. New rhythms form. Familiar habits settle in. For many couples, it feels grounding in a way nothing else quite does.

It also reveals differences.

How you each use time and money. What “clean” means. Preferred temperatures. Daily routines. And how much stuff belongs in the space you now share.

These differences aren’t the problem. Unspoken expectations are.

When assumptions go unnamed, friction builds quietly. Conversations get tense. Decisions stall. Small things start to feel bigger than they should.

To support couples in this transition, I created a Compatibility Questionnaire that helps you talk through the practical realities of shared living—before they turn into conflict.

It’s a simple way to understand each other more clearly, design your shared space intentionally, and keep communication calm and productive.

Please accept this free gift below.

 

Yes, send me the Compatibility Questionaire!

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Clear systems create calmer homes —

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