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Chapter 1 - Understanding How Your Home Clutter Makes You Feel

 

BOOKS:

 

ORGANIZING SHOWS:

  • Get Organized with The Home Edit 
  • Tidying Up with Marie Kondo
  • Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things
  • Queer Eye -There is always a home component to the transformation that is inspiring.

 

TOOLS:

Meditation to download to help you stay in a calm state: www.ClutterAndCouples.com/freeresources

Chapter 2- Dissecting the Causes of Your Clutter

 

BOOKS: 

 

ORGANIZING SHOWS:

“Hoarders”  - I mentioned this show in Chapter 2, but not necessarily in the hopes that you would watch it. It’s the most profound extreme of overabundance and may offer you some backdoor permission to NOT get rid of your inventory by sheer comparison. 

 

TOOLS:

https://allgreenrecycling.com/drop-off-locations/

This will hopefully put you in touch with a local (to you) center for hard-to-recycle materials so you can finally get those toxins out of your home!

 

Chapter 3 - Diving into the Negative Effects of Clutter

 

BOOKS: 

1. CLUTTER 

 

2. INTIMACY

 

3. DEPRESSION

Both of these weave comedy into the complexity of depression

 

SHOWS: 

  • How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix

Serious Face, Don’t miss this one! I promise you WILL be inspired to morph your bedroom into a sexy den of pleasure. 

 

SOCIALS:

  • Podcast: The Smart Couple by Jayson Gaddis:
  • Instagram: @Jimmy_On_Relationships - Jimmy uses humor and straightforward teaching tools to help understand the complexities of relationship and communication
  • YouTube: Patrick Teahan - Patrick teaches easily accessible information about possible sources of trauma in your early life and how it affects you as an adult, especially how you relate to your relationships. 

 

SHOPPING ADDICTION QUIZZES:

 

MOLD: 

 

DUST: 

 
Chapter 4- Effects of Clutter on Your Relationship
(with your partner and yourself)

 

BOOKS:

1. ATTACHMENT STYLE THEORY

 2. TRAUMA

3. CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIP

Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis

 

TOOLS:

 

PODCASTS:

  • On Attachment - Stephanie Riggs created an educational podcast dedicated to Attachment Style Theory.
  • The Smart Couple - Jayson Gaddis interviews folks who are leaders in the field of relationships.

A favorite:

Jayson interviews Stan Tatkin, where he’s speaking about emotional triggers. It’s incredibly helpful in understanding how we don’t have that much control once our nervous system gets triggered and takes over. 

Check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x46WuufeUbA

Chapter 5- Owning Your Own Conflict-Avoidant Behaviors

 

Books:

BOUNDARIES

Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/49cbPL2 

 

NERVOUS SYSTEM 

Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It for Good by Kimberly Ann Johnson

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/3OJ4TwN

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/3HX7NKo

 

ATTACHMENT

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/3TBjawX

 

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love By Dr. Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A 

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/3uww9aQ

 

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/3SYhe2D

 

Tools: 

Self-Regulation Tools for your Nervous System: 

  • Bilateral Stimulation
  • EMDR
  • Chanting the syllable VOOOO

 

Chapter 6- Ditching Disconnection and Thriving with Safe Communication

 

Books: 

The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody Beattie 

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/4aaa5T3 

 

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/4arI2xS 

 

Tools: 

Accelerated Evolution Website: https://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com/

This is the platform that taught me the life-changing communication tool I teach you in Chapter 6. I recommend diving into their effective tools to help eliminate your mental blocks.

 

 Chapter 7- Work as a Team: Combat Clutter and Build a Joyful Environment 

 

Books:

Clutter Busting: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back by Brooks Palmer

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/498Brre 

 

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/49dmXq7 

 

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/49djs34 

 

Tools: 

How to find the right Professional Organizer for you with NAPO (National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals). They have wonderful information that will help you find an Organizer in your location and give you some tips on how to hire the right person for you.

 

Visit: https://www.napo.net/